Have a question about being a Big Brother or Big Sister?
Before you can start something, you probably need a few questions answered.
- Who are the Big Brothers and Big Sisters in the program?
- When can I see my Little Brother or Sister?
- How much money should I spend?
- What are some good ideas for outings or activities with my Little?
- Can I bring my spouse, a friend or family member on outings?
- What kind of support can I expect from Big Brothers Big Sisters once I get matched?
- Will I become a replacement parent?
- Can I provide you with an existing background check?
Our Bigs come from diverse backgrounds just like our Littles. They are regular people, just like you. You don’t need any special degrees or job skills. You just have to want to positively impact a young person. Role models come in all shapes and sizes, and you could be a perfect fit!
As a Big /Little team, you decide together what you want to do. It is your responsibility to communicate with the parent/guardian for approval. We recommend that you keep a consistent schedule of outings and get together on a regular basis. Your local agency will provide more guidance on this. Until your relationship is established the outings will also depend on the comfort level of your Little’s parents, your Little and you.
The quality of time invested with your Little is more important than the amount of money you spend. That’s why we don’t encourage spending a lot of money on your outings. The goal of the relationship is to help him see the world through a different lens so you can inspire him to become something he never thought possible. If you are going to spend money, we encourage you to seek out low-cost activities, especially in the beginning. Shoot hoops at a local park, play a game together, or share that pizza that you were going to have for lunch anyway. Big Brothers Big Sisters agencies offer donor-supported group activities that are a great way to meet other Bigs and Littles. As a Big, you may also receive notices for free tickets to cultural and sports activities for you both to enjoy.
Share an activity that gives you something in common to talk about. Buy a comic book to read together. Play a board game. Hit a bucket of golf balls at the local driving range. Take a ride in the car with the radio on and talk about the music you like. You want to select activities that give each of you a chance to learn more about one another. For children, playing can be learning. Most important: keep it simple and enjoy yourselves!
In the beginning, it’s important that you and your Little get to know each other. This can happen best on a one-to-one basis. However, over time it’s also valuable for your Little to get to know the people who are important to you. Just keep in mind that if you’re spending lots of time with others, your Little may begin to feel jealous or neglected. The main focus is the friendship you develop with your Little and the impact you have on his or her life.
Once you are matched with your Little, a Match Support Specialist from the agency will be in regular contact with you to provide assistance and give feedback. Any time you are unsure about what to do or how to handle a situation, you will have a Match Support Specialist there to help. They’ll help you with ideas for activities, guidance for handling possible difficult situations, and feedback on how you are making a difference.
No, Littles have a parent or guardian in their life already. What they need is a Big to spend quality, one-on-one time with them. Someone to have fun with, someone they can confide in, someone like you!
A comprehensive, current criminal history record check is required of all Volunteer Bigs, BBBS Program Staff, and non-mentoring volunteers who come into meaningful contact with children. Child safety is our first priority. Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Carolinas utilizes Sterling Talent Solutions, via Verified Volunteers, a global background screening company with 40+ years of expertise. Verified Volunteers is the only background check platform tailored to the specific needs of our service sector and the first online community mobilizing repeat, vetted volunteers. For consistency we require this search.